Years ago, I was a big self-help reader and one of my favourite authors was Nathaniel Branden, a psychotherapist and author of Taking Responsibility, the Six Pillars of Self Esteem, and The Art of Living Consciously.
He told a story in one of those books around the concept of TAKING RESPONSIBILITY.
In the story, he told his weekly group once that “Nobody was coming.”
Nobody to save you, nobody to fix your problems, nobody to change your life.
One of the group said:
“But Nathaniel, you have come.”
“Yes” he said, “but I came to tell you that nobody’s coming.”
Looking back, it’s odd to me that I ever thought that anybody ever was coming to somehow fix whatever problems I’d made since I was and always have been single, didn’t have parents that looked out for me and all that. But I think that I did. Perhaps I thought that some future version of me would take care of my messes.
Fortunately, she showed up and took control.
Better late than never.