Last night, I was sitting on the deck enjoying a wobbly pop with my oldest son – who paid his biweekly rent!, discussing shopping. In listening to his (very short) story of buying a new pair of shoes, I realized that maybe some people’s (my) strategy shouldn’t be to avoid shopping but to learn to shop like a man. Which actually is a method of avoiding “shopping” and going straight to the buying.
How do men shop vs. women?
OMG, it’s like someone is following me around because this really IS how I shop. And it’s also how I got into debt years ago, from following my cavewoman-like gathering instincts when I would have been better off being a hunter, not a gatherer.
After our talk, I practiced this “shop like a man” strategy when I went to pick up groceries last night. I needed to pick up fruit and milk and repeated to myself mentally over and over “only pick up what you need, only pick up what you need.” The bill came to just over $11 – AND I didn’t have to just bring in $20 to the store to limit myself. Hopefully that won’t be enough to make me lose the frugal catfight this month.
I’ve read somewhere that women do over 80% of all household purchasing. But maybe that’s a mistake – maybe what would really help people get out of debt or save money is to make the men do all the buying. I tried doing that with my son for groceries and he just spent too much or forgot to pick up something on the list. One thing’s for sure though, unlike me, he never picked up anything that wasn’t on the list.
For a little tidbit for anyone who’s actually shopping for a man or woman, here’s a map I ran across of where to find those.
In your family, does the woman do all or most of the shopping?
When the guys do it, do they spend more but just get what you need like in mine?